What are ADHDers if not constantly looking for NEW and EXCITING?
Actually, I've know about BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits Coaching certification program for about 5 years, but always thought it was a little out of my budget, but I finally decided that this was the perfect time to invest in becoming a Tiny Habits(R) Coach.
What does that matter to you? Tiny Habits(R) is amazing for ADHD brains! Here's the basic way to create the recipe: You find a current habit - specifically the very tail end of it. You attach a small new habit that you would like to add consistently. And then you celebrate!
Repetition does not create habits - emotion does! It's going to take longer than 27 days to create a habit that you hate. Your brain feels the hate and isn't going to go along with it. But if you love it (or at least pretend to), your brain might go ahead and get with the program, if it's not too hard to do.
And that's what's key for us to understand - you have to have the correct tail-end action to connect your new habit to, and that new habit has to be small enough that it doesn't trigger our executive function over-ride. And you have to release happy hormones to set it in your brain.
If we want to start flossing, our recipe works best like this: "When I put my toothbrush back in the holder, I will floss one tooth." Not all of our teeth - just one. Because it's not so big that it feels too big, and our petulant brain overreacts and refuses to do it, like a kid who falls on the floor and wails that they "can't do it!"
Put the toothbrush in the holder, floss the tooth, and do a victory dance. And then decide if you want to do all of your teeth, or skip the rest for the night.
The more you practice the recipe and do the celebration, the more likely you will floss the rest of your teeth, and the more likely you will add the habit without having to think about it to get it done - it will start to happen easily and without reminder.
I invite you to grab a session or two on my calendar and let's get you moving forward toward your goals, including using Tiny Habits(R) in your arsenal.
I am overwhelmed, I am tired, but I am determined. My children deserve to enjoy the benefits of our ADHD gifts, and so do I.