I'm not quite sure where this one is going to lead today, but I felt you needed to read this:
"When you listen to a good story, the brain triggers the release of the hormone oxytocin. In lay terms, this is known as the relationship hormone. . . It's a hormone that orients us with compassion toward another. So it orients us toward collaboration.
Think of that. Listening to a good story actually produces an orientation toward compassion and focus on the other." Dr. Ronald Fry, Case Western Reserve University - Leading Positive Change Through Appreciative Inquiry
Cognitive Behavior Therapy can help us change the story we're telling ourselves about an event or experience. So many of us with ADHD have stories we tell ourselves - either because someone have out-right told us, or we interpreted their unspoken cues - that we are bad/unworthy/stupid/failures . . . what am I missing?
I need to find the citation, but I also heard that we have more compassion for others than we do for ourselves. But if we can see our future self as another person (more on this another day) we can extend our future self compassion.
I actually see a great deal of parallels to changing our own stories for ourselves. I love this idea of Appreciative Inquiry for ADHD Coaching.
I am overwhelmed, I am tired, but I am determined. My children deserve to enjoy the benefits of our ADHD gifts, and so do I.